There’s something so beautifully intentional about gathering your closest friends and family to help prepare for one of life’s most precious arrivals.
While baby showers have their purpose, there’s a newer trend that makes a whole lot of sense —and apparently, many agree. Enter the nesting party, “the baby shower as it should have always been.”
What is a Nesting Party?
Think of a nesting party as the practical cousin to the traditional baby shower. Instead of sipping “momosas” and playing silly shower games, guests dive into hands-on tasks at the expectant mothers’ home. They might build baby furniture, organize baby clothes, or even prep meals together. It’s about rolling up your sleeves and creating something meaningful—a prepared home, a stocked freezer, and most importantly, a village of support.
This type of intimate gathering involves rallying your friends to help with a variety of tasks that focus on preparation for the baby’s arrival. Rather than unwrapping gifts while everyone watches, you’re working side by side, sharing stories, and creating the kind of memories that actually matter when you’re sleep-deprived at 3 AM with a newborn.
I love how nesting parties transform the energy of celebration from passive to active. There’s something incredibly bonding about washing tiny onesies together or assembling a crib while sharing pregnancy stories and parenting wisdom.
So where to start…..
Step 1: Choosing the Theme and Date
Finding the Perfect Theme
The beauty of a nesting party lies in its flexibility. Some nesting parties have a theme and planned activities for the day. You can centre the party around cooking and meal-prepping or on assembling and decorating the nursery – whatever is a priority on the baby nesting checklist.
Here are some theme ideas that work beautifully:
- “Bless This Nest” – Perfect for nursery organization and home preparation
- “Bee-utiful Beginnings” – Great for meal prep and pantry stocking
- “Cozy & Ready” – Focus on creating comfort throughout the home
- “Village Vibes” – Emphasize community building and support systems
Timing is Everything
Choose a date when the mamma-to-be is feeling energetic (usually second trimester is ideal) but close enough to her due date that the preparation feels meaningful. Weekend afternoons work wonderfully—think 1 PM to 5 PM. This gives you time for meaningful work without the party feeling rushed.
Step 2: Creating a Cozy Atmosphere
Setting the Scene with Thoughtful Decor
A nesting party doesn’t have to break the bank. In fact, its practical and intimate nature makes it easier to plan on a budget. Start by focusing on what you already have, such as candles, plants, or photos, to create a cozy atmosphere.
Transform your space with these simple touches:
- Soft lighting: Dim harsh overhead lights and scatter battery-operated candles throughout
- Fresh flowers: Simple grocery store bouquets in mason jars feel perfectly homey
- Cozy textiles: Drape soft throws over chairs and add extra pillows to seating areas
- Personal touches: Display ultrasound photos or a “coming soon” chalkboard sign
Music That Sets the Mood
Create a playlist that feels like a warm hug—think acoustic covers, soft indie folk, or gentle jazz. The music should be background-worthy, allowing for easy conversation while people work. I love adding a few meaningful songs that remind you of this special time in your life.
Creating Work Stations
Set up different areas for various tasks: a meal prep station in the kitchen, a nursery organization corner, and a cozy spot for more delicate tasks like sorting baby clothes. This helps guests naturally flow between activities.
Step 3: Planning the Menu
Comfort Food That Fuels Connection
Lunch or afternoon tea work well. The key is keeping things simple yet satisfying. Your guests are doing work, so they’ll appreciate food that’s easy to grab and genuinely nourishing. Skip the huge cake and punchbowl.
Perfect Nesting Party Menu Ideas:
- Build-your-own sandwich bar with quality meats, cheeses, and fresh bread
- Hearty soup station – maybe a slow-cooker chili or creamy tomato soup
- Fresh salad with seasonal ingredients and a variety of toppings
- Energy-boosting snacks – nuts, fresh fruit, cheese and crackers
- Something sweet – homemade cookies or a simple cake
Signature Drinks to Celebrate
Create a special mocktail for the mama-to-be and have wine or beer available for other guests. Consider a “Mama’s Mule” (ginger beer with fresh lime) or sparkling water with fruit infusions. Having a signature drink makes everything feel more festive.
The Art of Easy Entertaining
Remember, you’re not trying to impress anyone with complicated dishes. The goal is to nourish your helpers while keeping your own stress levels low. Order pizza if that feels right—your guests are there for you, not for a five-course meal.
Step 4: Hosting Tips
Curating Your Guest List
As mentioned, it’s best to keep nesting parties small to limit the number of cooks in the kitchen. Invite close friends and family who have a genuine interest in pitching in and getting things done. Think 6-12 people maximum.
Creating a Task List That Works
Think very practical areas of help, including: organizing the nursery, postpartum freezer meal preparation, cleaning/organizing tasks, or preparing an activity basket for older kids.
Popular Nesting Party Activities:
- Assembling baby furniture or setting up gear
- Organizing and washing baby clothes by size
- Meal prepping and freezer meal assembly
- Deep cleaning specific areas of the house
- Creating postpartum care packages
- Setting up changing stations throughout the home
The Welcoming Vibe
Start the party with a brief explanation of what you’re hoping to accomplish, but keep it casual. Maybe say something like, “I’m so grateful you’re here to help us get ready for this little one. There’s no pressure—if you want to chat while folding onesies or if you’re excited to tackle the crib assembly, it’s all perfect.”
Small Touches That Matter Big
- Have a basket of hair ties and comfortable slippers available
- Set out phone chargers in common areas
- Create a “baby predictions” card station for guests to fill out
- Take photos throughout the day—these will be treasured memories
Step 5: Meaningful Send-Offs
Favors That Feel Personal
Unlike traditional party favors, nesting party send-offs should reflect the collaborative spirit of the day. Consider:
- Small succulent plants with tags saying “Thanks for helping our family grow”
- Homemade treats like cookies or granola bars
- Tea bags or coffee samples for those early parenting days ahead
- Simple photo frames where guests can later add pictures from the day
Creating Lasting Connections
Create a meal calendar for the guest of honor. Consider using a meal organizing site like Take Them A Meal. End the party by setting up a meal train or organizing ongoing support. This extends the nesting party spirit well beyond the actual event
Final Thoughts
Planning a nesting party might feel daunting, but remember that the whole point is simplicity and authenticity. Your guests aren’t coming to judge your hosting skills—they’re coming because they love the mamma-to-be and want to help prepare for your little miracle.
Nesting parties offer a refreshing and supportive alternative to traditional baby showers. By creating a personalized nesting party checklist and sending out thoughtful nesting party invitations, you can focus on building a strong community of practical assistance for the parents-to-be.
The magic of a nesting party isn’t in perfect execution—it’s in the laughter that fills your kitchen while friends prep freezer meals, the quiet moments of folding tiny clothes together, and the overwhelming feeling of being truly supported as you prepare for parenthood.
So take a deep breath, trust in the love of your community, and remember that sometimes the most meaningful celebrations happen when we’re working side by side, building something beautiful together. Your nesting party will be perfect simply because it’s filled with people who care about you and your growing family.
After all, it takes a village to raise a child—and sometimes, that village needs to help build the nest first.
Happy nesting!
